Re: Coming out stories and Gay/Lesbian Discussion LGBT

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Thu Apr 05, 2012 7:40 pm

SpiralDasher wrote:Thanks, Luu. I know it's not much to be thanked just for reading something, but really, thank you. =) I posted this a couple other places and no one, not even anyone on facebook, responded to my post. I feel like they were avoiding it and that truly made me sad; are they trying to avoid the fact that I'm a lesbian? Can they not be bothered to take the time to read one powerful message?
I know I'm just speculating, but it means a lot to me that you took that time to read. Grazie. X3

I look forward to seeing what it is. ^^

Which is funny. Is being a lesbian not special too? o.o; Take it as a defense mechanism people have to avoid such a delicate subject.

You: Let's talk rainbows!

The "norms": Uhhhh, can we talk about chest infections instead?

And yes, it shall be announced soon. o.o Nani? You have a Facebook? If you're not too shy to join in on the yuri filled antics of our MM and femslash Facebook groups, PM me.

by **SpiralDasher** Fri Apr 06, 2012 2:08 am

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:Which is funny. Is being a lesbian not special too? o.o; Take it as a defense mechanism people have to avoid such a delicate subject.

You: Let's talk rainbows!

The "norms": Uhhhh, can we talk about chest infections instead?

I think of it this way: being a lesbian can be special, the same way being straight can be special. Both are perfectly normal and it's only part of who we are. It doesn't define us; we're just people. :3

Pssh, my rainbow are badass, what'chu talkin' 'bout. 8) poptart kat

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Fri Apr 06, 2012 1:52 pm

SpiralDasher wrote:I think of it this way: being a lesbian can be special, the same way being straight can be special. Both are perfectly normal and it's only part of who we are. It doesn't define us; we're just people. :3

Pssh, my rainbow are badass, what'chu talkin' 'bout. 8)

:3 Correct. It's character (I'll even toss in attitude) that truly defines us. :3

Check the announcement section VERY soon. My little idea will be up!

by **midori's crazy398** Sat Jun 02, 2012 3:41 am

Wow, i was exploring the site and came across this thread. You guys all have some very cool and amazing stories and opinions. I finally found some people with common sense on the internet! [except for you guys at SCANDAL-HEAVEN, I love all of you : D] So, i guess i should share my coming out story. Hmm...how should i begin? In the second and third grade i only said i was a lesbian to keep guys from hounding me, even though at the time i didn't care for love at all [when i told them this they didn't get it but they still left me alone]. Then my parents jumped on the bandwagon and started asking me a bunch of questions about being a lez, and that i might be too young and all that kind of crap. In the end, the only one who said they would support me even if i did turn out to be a lesbian was my dad and stepmom. Years pass, now im in 6th grade and i still don't care about love. Until one day i met my future crush in afterschool. At first i just admired her because she was better at swimming than i was or ever will be xD. Eventually, i really did fall in love with her and i never told her till i was 13-borderline-14. I would always blush when she talked or looked at me. She treated me like a friend, until i noticed she started following around a lot, smiled and laughed more when i was around, and let me sneak a peak down her shirt [secretly of course xD, I kno, ima perv]. Basicly she seemed attracted to me [at least in my eyes]. When i told her how i felt, she didnt get angry at all, more like she was in shock. In our conversations after that day, she didn't give me an answer about whether she liked me or not, but whenever i brought my love up, she always shyed away from the subject and didn't want to talk about it. We would talk about anything else though, until after a while we stopped talking. Both sets of my parents are ok with me being a lesbian now, but i feel confused about Ruana [my crush]. Im trying to get over her but i feel a little conflicted about what she might have felt or be feeling. Some help plz!!

by **IlliterateKoi** Sat Jun 02, 2012 9:19 am

midori's crazy398 wrote:Wow, i was exploring the site and came across this thread. You guys all have some very cool and amazing stories and opinions. I finally found some people with common sense on the internet! [except for you guys at SCANDAL-HEAVEN, I love all of you : D] So, i guess i should share my coming out story. Hmm...how should i begin? In the second and third grade i only said i was a lesbian to keep guys from hounding me, even though at the time i didn't care for love at all [when i told them this they didn't get it but they still left me alone]. Then my parents jumped on the bandwagon and started asking me a bunch of questions about being a lez, and that i might be too young and all that kind of crap. In the end, the only one who said they would support me even if i did turn out to be a lesbian was my dad and stepmom. Years pass, now im in 6th grade and i still don't care about love. Until one day i met my future crush in afterschool. At first i just admired her because she was better at swimming than i was or ever will be xD. Eventually, i really did fall in love with her and i never told her till i was 13-borderline-14. I would always blush when she talked or looked at me. She treated me like a friend, until i noticed she started following around a lot, smiled and laughed more when i was around, and let me sneak a peak down her shirt [secretly of course xD, I kno, ima perv]. Basicly she seemed attracted to me [at least in my eyes]. When i told her how i felt, she didnt get angry at all, more like she was in shock. In our conversations after that day, she didn't give me an answer about whether she liked me or not, but whenever i brought my love up, she always shyed away from the subject and didn't want to talk about it. We would talk about anything else though, until after a while we stopped talking. Both sets of my parents are ok with me being a lesbian now, but i feel confused about Ruana [my crush]. Im trying to get over her but i feel a little conflicted about what she might have felt or be feeling. Some help plz!!

You sound just like me when I was your age! (I just made myself feel old by saying that =_=)

I'd say the only thing you can really do to settle your mind is ask her outright what she feels for you. It will be awkward and uncomfortable for both of you, but guessing won't help. Whatever her answer is, take it, accept it and move forward from there. I made the mistake of not doing this, and found out years later that she had been just as much in love with me as I had been with her. This might not be the case for you, but the constant 'what if's' will bug the hell out of you if you don't be upfront about it.

Just my two cents anyway :)

by **ookamidesu** Sat Jun 02, 2012 10:48 am

IlliterateKoi wrote:
midori's crazy398 wrote:Wow, i was exploring the site and came across this thread. You guys all have some very cool and amazing stories and opinions. I finally found some people with common sense on the internet! [except for you guys at SCANDAL-HEAVEN, I love all of you : D] So, i guess i should share my coming out story. Hmm...how should i begin? In the second and third grade i only said i was a lesbian to keep guys from hounding me, even though at the time i didn't care for love at all [when i told them this they didn't get it but they still left me alone]. Then my parents jumped on the bandwagon and started asking me a bunch of questions about being a lez, and that i might be too young and all that kind of crap. In the end, the only one who said they would support me even if i did turn out to be a lesbian was my dad and stepmom. Years pass, now im in 6th grade and i still don't care about love. Until one day i met my future crush in afterschool. At first i just admired her because she was better at swimming than i was or ever will be xD. Eventually, i really did fall in love with her and i never told her till i was 13-borderline-14. I would always blush when she talked or looked at me. She treated me like a friend, until i noticed she started following around a lot, smiled and laughed more when i was around, and let me sneak a peak down her shirt [secretly of course xD, I kno, ima perv]. Basicly she seemed attracted to me [at least in my eyes]. When i told her how i felt, she didnt get angry at all, more like she was in shock. In our conversations after that day, she didn't give me an answer about whether she liked me or not, but whenever i brought my love up, she always shyed away from the subject and didn't want to talk about it. We would talk about anything else though, until after a while we stopped talking. Both sets of my parents are ok with me being a lesbian now, but i feel confused about Ruana [my crush]. Im trying to get over her but i feel a little conflicted about what she might have felt or be feeling. Some help plz!!

You sound just like me when I was your age! (I just made myself feel old by saying that =_=)

I'd say the only thing you can really do to settle your mind is ask her outright what she feels for you. It will be awkward and uncomfortable for both of you, but guessing won't help. Whatever her answer is, take it, accept it and move forward from there. I made the mistake of not doing this, and found out years later that she had been just as much in love with me as I had been with her. This might not be the case for you, but the constant 'what if's' will bug the hell out of you if you don't be upfront about it.

Just my two cents anyway :)

I agree with this. Ask her to be straight up with you. She seems to want to avoid the discussion... and I think it's probably a good idea to figure out why for that too. But the best way to get over her and move on is to know, without a doubt, what she feels for you. Don't do it too forcefully though. You'll come across as too aggressive. If I was in your position, I'd just go up to her, tell her how I feel about her, ask her what she feels for me, and assure her that no matter what her response is, nothing between you two has to change if she doesn't want it to.

by **midori's crazy398** Sat Jun 02, 2012 12:18 pm

@above posts

Ara, thanks for the advice! The only problem is that i can't talk to her in person, only over the phone since i left the afterschool due to personal reasons. If she decides not to pick up the phone, then im still left hanging. And unfortunately i have come off as a little aggressive, so that caused her to go back in her shell rather than talk much about the subject

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Sat Jun 02, 2012 2:30 pm

:3 Sorry to interrupt the oh-so-serious discussion for Midori-chan. *GRABS KOI AND STICKS A BLADE IN HER MOUTH*

>:3 WHY SO SERIOUS?!

But I wanted to wish my fellow gay, lesbian, bi, and transgender peeps a Happy Pride Month! June has arrived and it's gayer than a Shizuru x Lady Gaga music video.

Gay Rainbow

I will leave you with Pride Day shout outs from the legendary Idina Menzel (of Rent, Glee and Wicked fame) as well as yours truly. The Best In The World. :)

by MidnightPersona Sat Jun 02, 2012 4:07 pm

ookamidesu wrote:I agree with this. Ask her to be straight up with you. She seems to want to avoid the discussion... and I think it's probably a good idea to figure out why for that too. But the best way to get over her and move on is to know, without a doubt, what she feels for you. Don't do it too forcefully though. You'll come across as too aggressive. If I was in your position, I'd just go up to her, tell her how I feel about her, ask her what she feels for me, and assure her that no matter what her response is, nothing between you two has to change if she doesn't want it to.

Great in theory, bad in practice depending on the person.

Honestly, Dye here is forgetting about the other kind of girls. The kind who avoid any kind of real discussion. Where, regardless of their feelings/emotions for you their to afraid to even be friends with you. They may even decide it's better to hate you than risk caring or at least try and push you to hate them.

I do agree you may need to try and talk, but if she keeps pushing you away then try and be patient. Patience, though, is hard for me and harder still when you care about someone and would rather NOT give a flying fuck about them.

Also, is she even worth it? Do you wanna be her friend regardless of her flaws, of how she may hurt you, and do you think she can even fathom to handle accepting you as a friend or more if you mess up as well... or will she be a coward and run away from you and other affections and treat you like absolute shit and make you feel like dirt.

If she's treating you like that, and you have it in you, walk away if you can or your feelings aren't strong enough to keep trying. Because if you don't think she's worth fighting for--even if just a friendship--just stop. If she's worth being in your life--friend or lover--keep trying. The second you stop to care, if you stop to care and not just telling yourself it's too hard, idk. I really don't know.

All I know is that that kind of situation is hard. Even harder if you actually dated the person and you still can't figure out what the fuck happened, why they refuse to see you exist, and how they can forget the good things just because of whatever. *Shrugs*

It's worse when you have a understanding--and even pity--for what they're doing to themselves and others.

Sorry, I just found some of the replies funny. Dye's basically said what I actually did in high school when I was younger, except I'm aggressive as fuck. Maybe that's part of my issue? But I always give shit my all and I tend to refuse to lose those I love. I don't like losing or admitting defeat when it comes to those I love so I'll fight for them and, even when I want to give up and I've even ran away from friends for years... I'd realize there's more to all relationships--love or friend--that mean something and if you really care about people you never really stop caring.

Sorry, my tangential thought pattern is coming out.

If you care about her or anyone... fight for the friendship if nothing else. Even if they reject it, never stop caring. I make the mistake of being to aggressive, but I tend to have different emotional control than others that can affect me in weird ways, but just do what Dye said, but be careful.

Those you love can tear your heart out worse than the common rabble. Or, maybe I am just a bleeding heart?

Good luck, and do yourself a favor?

Never, ever, give up on someone you truly love. Even if they curse your name. You may have to wait for years, maybe never, but they may come around someday and realize that you had nothing but good intent. Love and be loved in return, perfection in imperfection...

And never, ever, EVER feel bad for loving.

I wish you better luck than I've been having with some people I love. :3

by **ookamidesu** Sat Jun 02, 2012 4:19 pm

MidnightPersona wrote:
ookamidesu wrote:I agree with this. Ask her to be straight up with you. She seems to want to avoid the discussion... and I think it's probably a good idea to figure out why for that too. But the best way to get over her and move on is to know, without a doubt, what she feels for you. Don't do it too forcefully though. You'll come across as too aggressive. If I was in your position, I'd just go up to her, tell her how I feel about her, ask her what she feels for me, and assure her that no matter what her response is, nothing between you two has to change if she doesn't want it to.

Great in theory, bad in practice depending on the person.

Honestly, Dye here is forgetting about the other kind of girls. The kind who avoid any kind of real discussion. Where, regardless of their feelings/emotions for you their to afraid to even be friends with you. They may even decide it's better to hate you than risk caring or at least try and push you to hate them.

I do agree you may need to try and talk, but if she keeps pushing you away then try and be patient. Patience, though, is hard for me and harder still when you care about someone and would rather NOT give a flying fuck about them.

Also, is she even worth it? Do you wanna be her friend regardless of her flaws, of how she may hurt you, and do you think she can even fathom to handle accepting you as a friend or more if you mess up as well... or will she be a coward and run away from you and other affections and treat you like absolute shit and make you feel like dirt.

If she's treating you like that, and you have it in you, walk away if you can or your feelings aren't strong enough to keep trying. Because if you don't think she's worth fighting for--even if just a friendship--just stop. If she's worth being in your life--friend or lover--keep trying. The second you stop to care, if you stop to care and not just telling yourself it's too hard, idk. I really don't know.

All I know is that that kind of situation is hard. Even harder if you actually dated the person and you still can't figure out what the fuck happened, why they refuse to see you exist, and how they can forget the good things just because of whatever. *Shrugs*

It's worse when you have a understanding--and even pity--for what they're doing to themselves and others.

Sorry, I just found some of the replies funny. Dye's basically said what I actually did in high school when I was younger, except I'm aggressive as fuck. Maybe that's part of my issue? But I always give shit my all and I tend to refuse to lose those I love. I don't like losing or admitting defeat when it comes to those I love so I'll fight for them and, even when I want to give up and I've even ran away from friends for years... I'd realize there's more to all relationships--love or friend--that mean something and if you really care about people you never really stop caring.

Sorry, my tangential thought pattern is coming out.

If you care about her or anyone... fight for the friendship if nothing else. Even if they reject it, never stop caring. I make the mistake of being to aggressive, but I tend to have different emotional control than others that can affect me in weird ways, but just do what Dye said, but be careful.

Those you love can tear your heart out worse than the common rabble. Or, maybe I am just a bleeding heart?

Good luck, and do yourself a favor?

Never, ever, give up on someone you truly love. Even if they curse your name. You may have to wait for years, maybe never, but they may come around someday and realize that you had nothing but good intent. Love and be loved in return, perfection in imperfection...

And never, ever, EVER feel bad for loving.

I wish you better luck than I've been having with some people I love. :3

Good point. Given the situation where they want to avoid you like the plague, it's probably safe to say that they aren't interested.

Midori, you're still young. You still have a lot of time in front of you. I know it's easier said than done, but you're probably better off just forgetting this girl. :3

by **midori's crazy398** Sat Jun 02, 2012 7:25 pm

@Above posts

Thanks alot guys, my dad was telling me something similar, looking everything over in my mind, she really wasn't worth me losing my mind if in the end she only wants to avoid me. It definitely makes sense, ty everyone! Now when i start my first year of H.S. in the summer, i can start looking around > : D im so evil xD

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Sat Jun 02, 2012 8:45 pm

midori's crazy398 wrote:@Above posts

Thanks alot guys, my dad was telling me something similar, looking everything over in my mind, she really wasn't worth me losing my mind if in the end she only wants to avoid me. It definitely makes sense, ty everyone! Now when i start my first year of H.S. in the summer, i can start looking around > : D im so evil xD

You're in the early stages of your life, Midori. We have a lot of lesbians on the forum as you can already tell, who've done the High School thing already. Their advice may get you through some tough times up ahead. For now, I'm wishing you some smooth sailing instead. Arika Yumemiya

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Wed Jun 27, 2012 12:43 pm

My new friend Lian isn't highly well known, but I love her honest input on lesbians, gay life and best of all- PUSSSY! *O*

Lian the lesbian Episode 11: what girls ask lesbians

Lian the lesbian Episode 16: How to ask out a girl on a date

Lian the lesbian Episode 17: Your a lesbian!

Lian the lesbian Episode 18: My lesbian wish

by **ookamidesu** Wed Jun 27, 2012 1:09 pm

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:

Lian the lesbian Episode 11: what girls ask lesbians

I agree with her on that. Some people can be really ignorant and think that just because we're lesbians, we will try to hump every person with double-X chromosomes. All people, whether they are homosexuals, bisexuals, heterosexuals, pansexuals have this thing called standards. And quite often, open-mindedness is on the list of standards, so really... people with small minds really have nothing to worry about. -_-;

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Wed Jun 27, 2012 7:47 pm

Exactly, Dye. Here's her latest video on the unfortunate murder of two lesbians in Texas. ^^;

It sucks of course, but like I told her earlier, no matter if it's 3000 BC or 23567087 ADDDDDDDD.

PEOPLE ARE STUPID. AND WILL ALWAYS DO STUPID THINGS

Nobody deserves what happened to those two girls. On the plus side, I'm happy Lian found a girlfriend for herself. ^o^/ Many congrats to her!

by **Konaxookami** Wed Jun 27, 2012 8:11 pm

Oh hey.

I totally forgot we had this thread.

(probably since I had figured I wouldn't be coming out ANNNYYYYY time soon to my parents but WHATEVER >>; )

But I'll tell you you all the less than thrilling tale of my coming out to my parents. With my friends it's always someone blabbing something stupid to one of the other friends who don't know but my PARENTS. Now there's a good story, if not sort of stupid on my part.

SO I had to fill out my rooming survey and forms for college not too long ago and there was a bit at the bottom about other things that they may want to know about me for my roommate. Now, I'd always put down most of the generally strange things I loved: comics, manga, cosplay, homestuck, broadway...But I'd left out my sexuality because hey the rommate form doesn't have any opinion about it!

But I'm sitting there thinking: 'Wait. Shouldn't they want to know? So like-I don't get paired up with some homophobe? Or like, if they don't want to put me in the all female dorm because of it?' So I sat there staring at the misc. section, KNOWING my parents wou'd be seeing it sooner or later.

Now, I'd sorta broached the topic with my parents a few times. I'd been a member of my school's SADD club, and I was a Diversity Day staff member, so I'm always sort of in the middle of the whole LGBT scene at the school, so I'd talk about it. Occasionally I'd let the words 'our' and ''we' slip out when I would get mad about people being d-bags to LGBT kids in my school. I got the feel that they were okay with it, and my mom had asked me a few times about it-but having a boyfriend threw them off all of that for a while. But still. Back to the form.

Me. Being the stupid Kona I am, wrote down that I was Bald and Bisexual, put down the pencil, and went back to my day without another thought about it.

A week or so later, I'm with my Dad in the car and we're driving on the freeway, coming back from picking up new keys for the car since my WONDERFUL brother lost two. We're about half way back when my Dad brings up the roommate form.

We proceed to have one of the most ridiculous beat around the bush sessions we've ever had in my life until he finally asks the magical words: "Are you sure you're Bi?"

And I'm sitting here, freaking out because this was not the way I wanted to have this chat, or really any chat about my sexual orientation/life. So I sat there and I explained that 'yeah Dad I'm bi. No it's not a phase I'm pretty damn sure about it.' and such.

He listens and then it was quiet for a really long time before I finally got the guts to ask if it was okay. Which was really freaking me out. Because he was just seeming all nonchalant about it all.

When he said that he was a little surprised and my mother was a tad upset I was ready to throw myself from the car onto the freeway and walk far far away, but then he added that of course it was okay.

"I just have to convince your mother that you weren't seduced into it by Hailey(Kitkat) and David (my two gayest of gay friends.)"

HE then went on to say that putting that down on my roommate form was probably not the smartest thing since I would be starting out in a totally new environment. HE reminded me to test the waters and walk my way into telling other people slowly because some people may react differently and be be aware that I still needed to conduct myself in proper behavior.

IT was surreal.

I still haven't really gotten over it all. Even if it was a few months ago.
I haven't really talked with my mom about it-but she hasn't treated me any differently and has maybe been even more open and friendly about everything since then.

So yeah.

That's my coming out story. Lame and sorta cliched, but there it is.

-ollies out-

by **ookamidesu** Wed Jun 27, 2012 8:21 pm

Konaxookami wrote:Oh hey.

I totally forgot we had this thread.

(probably since I had figured I wouldn't be coming out ANNNYYYYY time soon to my parents but WHATEVER >>; )

But I'll tell you you all the less than thrilling tale of my coming out to my parents. With my friends it's always someone blabbing something stupid to one of the other friends who don't know but my PARENTS. Now there's a good story, if not sort of stupid on my part.

SO I had to fill out my rooming survey and forms for college not too long ago and there was a bit at the bottom about other things that they may want to know about me for my roommate. Now, I'd always put down most of the generally strange things I loved: comics, manga, cosplay, homestuck, broadway...But I'd left out my sexuality because hey the rommate form doesn't have any opinion about it!

But I'm sitting there thinking: 'Wait. Shouldn't they want to know? So like-I don't get paired up with some homophobe? Or like, if they don't want to put me in the all female dorm because of it?' So I sat there staring at the misc. section, KNOWING my parents wou'd be seeing it sooner or later.

Now, I'd sorta broached the topic with my parents a few times. I'd been a member of my school's SADD club, and I was a Diversity Day staff member, so I'm always sort of in the middle of the whole LGBT scene at the school, so I'd talk about it. Occasionally I'd let the words 'our' and ''we' slip out when I would get mad about people being d-bags to LGBT kids in my school. I got the feel that they were okay with it, and my mom had asked me a few times about it-but having a boyfriend threw them off all of that for a while. But still. Back to the form.

Me. Being the stupid Kona I am, wrote down that I was Bald and Bisexual, put down the pencil, and went back to my day without another thought about it.

A week or so later, I'm with my Dad in the car and we're driving on the freeway, coming back from picking up new keys for the car since my WONDERFUL brother lost two. We're about half way back when my Dad brings up the roommate form.

We proceed to have one of the most ridiculous beat around the bush sessions we've ever had in my life until he finally asks the magical words: "Are you sure you're Bi?"

And I'm sitting here, freaking out because this was not the way I wanted to have this chat, or really any chat about my sexual orientation/life. So I sat there and I explained that 'yeah Dad I'm bi. No it's not a phase I'm pretty damn sure about it.' and such.

He listens and then it was quiet for a really long time before I finally got the guts to ask if it was okay. Which was really freaking me out. Because he was just seeming all nonchalant about it all.

When he said that he was a little surprised and my mother was a tad upset I was ready to throw myself from the car onto the freeway and walk far far away, but then he added that of course it was okay.

"I just have to convince your mother that you weren't seduced into it by Hailey(Kitkat) and David (my two gayest of gay friends.)"

HE then went on to say that putting that down on my roommate form was probably not the smartest thing since I would be starting out in a totally new environment. HE reminded me to test the waters and walk my way into telling other people slowly because some people may react differently and be be aware that I still needed to conduct myself in proper behavior.

IT was surreal.

I still haven't really gotten over it all. Even if it was a few months ago.
I haven't really talked with my mom about it-but she hasn't treated me any differently and has maybe been even more open and friendly about everything since then.

So yeah.

That's my coming out story. Lame and sorta cliched, but there it is.

-ollies out-

Thanks for sharing your story with us, Kona! It makes me happy to know that it's not impossible to receive positive reactions from your parents when you finally come out to them.

by **Konaxookami** Wed Jun 27, 2012 8:37 pm

ookamidesu wrote:
Thanks for sharing your story with us, Kona! It makes me happy to know that it's not impossible to receive positive reactions from your parents when you finally come out to them.

Thanks! To be honest I was really surprised with how positive the reaction was-considering it was my Republican Dad and my Catholic Mum. (Though Dad's more liberal nowadays...And I Think Mum gave up once I got confirmed...)

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Wed Jun 27, 2012 8:41 pm

Your parents love you. No matter what religion they follow or who they represent, you will always be their daughter. If I had a bi-sexual daughter someday, I'd be happy to support her. Not sure what a parent feels 100% yet, but I do know I'll treasure my daughter and who she is.

Thanks for sharing, Kona-chan! :blue rose: GRANDE CHIE

by **Konaxookami** Wed Jun 27, 2012 8:44 pm

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:Your parents love you. No matter what religion they follow or who they represent, you will always be their daughter. If I had a bi-sexual daughter someday, I'd be happy to support her. Not sure what a parent feels 100% yet, but I do know I'll treasure my daughter and who she is.

Thanks for sharing, Kona-chan! :blue rose:

I get a Chie!? Aw shucks, thanks Luu!

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Thu Jun 28, 2012 6:18 pm

Konaxookami wrote:
Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:Your parents love you. No matter what religion they follow or who they represent, you will always be their daughter. If I had a bi-sexual daughter someday, I'd be happy to support her. Not sure what a parent feels 100% yet, but I do know I'll treasure my daughter and who she is.

Thanks for sharing, Kona-chan! :blue rose:

I get a Chie!? Aw shucks, thanks Luu!

You're welcome! Chie for anyone and everyone brave enough to jump out of the closet!

GRANDE CHIE

by **GhibliFreek** Thu Jun 28, 2012 7:31 pm

Well...I had come out to my parents as lesbian last year.....and then I decided to give them another heart attack by coming out as trans a little before Christmas. What can I say, I was in the giving spirit.
No but in all seriousness, it was one of the most terrifying things I have ever done in my life. I couldn't even work up the courage to tell them face to face, and resorted instead to writing them a letter and pinning it up on the board before I left for college.
By the time I had gotten home, Robs had read it, and he accepted it, and my mum had read it...and settled for ignoring me for almost two weeks. It got better, until a little after the new year when she finally realized just what I was going through and what I wanted for myself, as well as from others. It's very shaky, the topic is always awkward to talk about if it ever comes up. But I'm grateful that I still have a family, and that they even support me enough to go to the therapy sessions that the government deem necessary for me to go on in life :U
It's always going to be hard, due to a lot of peoples views on gender expression and identity....especially the area I live in and my college and work. But you know what, I don't care. I'm happier with myself now than I have been for years. And I know it's only going to get better from here.
/ends his incessant rambling

by **ookamidesu** Thu Jun 28, 2012 7:37 pm

GhibliFreek wrote:Well...I had come out to my parents as lesbian last year.....and then I decided to give them another heart attack by coming out as trans a little before Christmas. What can I say, I was in the giving spirit.
No but in all seriousness, it was one of the most terrifying things I have ever done in my life. I couldn't even work up the courage to tell them face to face, and resorted instead to writing them a letter and pinning it up on the board before I left for college.
By the time I had gotten home, Robs had read it, and he accepted it, and my mum had read it...and settled for ignoring me for almost two weeks. It got better, until a little after the new year when she finally realized just what I was going through and what I wanted for myself, as well as from others. It's very shaky, the topic is always awkward to talk about if it ever comes up. But I'm grateful that I still have a family, and that they even support me enough to go to the therapy sessions that the government deem necessary for me to go on in life :U
It's always going to be hard, due to a lot of peoples views on gender expression and identity....especially the area I live in and my college and work. But you know what, I don't care. I'm happier with myself now than I have been for years. And I know it's only going to get better from here.
/ends his incessant rambling

*Hugs*

I'm happy for you that you are happier with yourself now. Not a lot of people have the courage to tell their loved ones something like that.

Thanks for sharing your story. Have a Sara and Sara's muffin. :)

Sara

by **GhibliFreek** Thu Jun 28, 2012 7:44 pm

ookamidesu wrote:

*Hugs*

I'm happy for you that you are happier with yourself now. Not a lot of people have the courage to tell their loved ones something like that.

Thanks for sharing your story. Have a Sara and Sara's muffin. :)

ffffthankyouuu Q___Q hugsaregoodyes

....wASTHAT MEANT TO BE AN INNUENDO OR HAS SLEEP-DEPRIVATION JUST FLUNG MY MIND INTO THE DARKEST DEPTHS OF THE GUTTER-ohlook she does have a muffin wow.....

by **Konaxookami** Thu Jun 28, 2012 8:39 pm

GhibliFreek wrote:Well...I had come out to my parents as lesbian last year.....and then I decided to give them another heart attack by coming out as trans a little before Christmas. What can I say, I was in the giving spirit.
No but in all seriousness, it was one of the most terrifying things I have ever done in my life. I couldn't even work up the courage to tell them face to face, and resorted instead to writing them a letter and pinning it up on the board before I left for college.
By the time I had gotten home, Robs had read it, and he accepted it, and my mum had read it...and settled for ignoring me for almost two weeks. It got better, until a little after the new year when she finally realized just what I was going through and what I wanted for myself, as well as from others. It's very shaky, the topic is always awkward to talk about if it ever comes up. But I'm grateful that I still have a family, and that they even support me enough to go to the therapy sessions that the government deem necessary for me to go on in life :U
It's always going to be hard, due to a lot of peoples views on gender expression and identity....especially the area I live in and my college and work. But you know what, I don't care. I'm happier with myself now than I have been for years. And I know it's only going to get better from here.
/ends his incessant rambling

Bravo Bro. I'm glad you're happier now. Took balls my friend. I'm glad you went through with it and you ended up a good place.

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