Re: Coming out stories and Gay/Lesbian Discussion LGBT

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Sat Feb 25, 2012 10:35 pm

GoldenSun13 wrote:Hmm... I posted on here a while ago, saying about my failed coming out with my Sixth Form friends, who ether couldn't care or didn't want to, and also a few attempts with my parents. Since then, I've given up trying with my friends because I hardly talk to them and I realise now, that they aren't really my friends. I tried again with my Mum, but I didn't get to say a word before she shot me down. She's got too much on her plate at the moment, so she doesn't want to hear my "Teenage, over-reacting, depressed" problems *shrugs*

My university group of friends are a fantastic bunch. They are all very friendly with the LGBT community, so when I finally fessed up (well, my hard headed friend who likes to get to the point helped me along with, my permission of course), they hardly batted an eyelash. I guess it kind of helps that they're London born and bred, and over here you don't have to look too hard for gay people. But I think it's also a case of, these people really care about me.

I guess what you can take from this is: Friends come and go; the ones that stay are the ones who matter most. If you come out to a group of people and they shun you or ignore it because it makes them uncomfortable, then they are not your friends as they are not accepting who you really are.
Things are getting better. It might be going slow, but I for one am seeing a change. It's probably (most definitely) because I've moved from a conservative place to a very open city, but it won't be soon before the majority is like that. If you are currently living in a place where you feel closed in, then don't worry, when the time comes, you'll find you're own little place where you'll feel welcomed.
Lastly, yes, blood is thicker than water, but there is such a thing as a family made out of people you love who are not related to you. If you are feeling like no one at home accepts you, there will always be people who do outside, whether it's on the internet, or at school.
So chin up guys : ) I know it can be hard, but until you find your place, the people on MM and other internet sites will be there to listen when you are down. Don't ever think that you are not needed/wanted.

Anyone close to you is considered family to me. It's good that I understand this, I suppose. I don't really need anyone close to me, I'm better off on my on. Always was. Raven knows how much I love my lone wolf ways.

Then suddenly, you meet a few damn decent people you can trust in and you foolishly let them in. Only to end up feeling like an idiot because you realize maintaining my extremist ways would of prevented so many prized friendships. I'm not homosexual obviously, but I know how special it feels when people accept who you are. In your case, Justine, you are beautiful inside and out. I've seen how nicely you treat others and how you make Maria happy, I wish I were half the person you are. ^_~ Never change, unless it's for the better. Only then, you'd be bringing more joy to others.

ATHENAx514 wrote:my parents already knew but my grandma had no idea.... unfortunately grandma liked to drop by unannounced....so grandma came to wake me up and lets just say i got busted :( she never said a word about it but oh well and since that day i had decided i wont keep my preference a secret just so certain people can feel better around me :)

:) That's a start, Athena. I know you'll make a lot of friends and find a lovely girlfriend who will understand you.

by **ATHENAx514** Sun Feb 26, 2012 12:51 am

oh i hope so, Im proud of who I am tho and I think thats the kind of attitude everyone should have :)

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Sun Feb 26, 2012 5:53 pm

ATHENAx514 wrote:oh i hope so, Im proud of who I am tho and I think thats the kind of attitude everyone should have :)

Some people are too scared to have that attitude. ^_~ It takes a while to reach a comfort zone, but everyone gets there with enough friendship and support.

by **ATHENAx514** Sun Feb 26, 2012 8:22 pm

ya i probably wouldnt be where i am without support of some friends too :)

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Thu Mar 22, 2012 1:21 am

ATHENAx514 wrote:ya i probably wouldnt be where i am without support of some friends too :)

Not that it matters; but how big is your support group? Me and my friends at work had this discussion earlier.

by **magicmaster03** Thu Mar 22, 2012 1:16 pm

well i cant sa that i've come out seeing that i am straight but i have had many friends who have chose me to come out to

by **IlliterateKoi** Thu Mar 22, 2012 2:43 pm

The first person I came out to was my brother. And I pretty much only did it in exchange for him to tell me what was bothering him (It was seriously getting to him so I bargained Razz

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He'd always been pretty homophobic so I was terrified, but in the end he just said 'you're still my sister' and that was that :) He's now completely against homophobia and shouts at anyone that says anything even remotely homophobic lol Love him <3

As for other people, I've always been one of those people that thinks that I shouldn't have to come out and say it, since other people don't have to come out as straight Razz

(by the by, did you know that 'straight' is considered to be an offensive word? Because the opposite of straight is bent, which was used as a derogatory word... I didn't until a few weeks ago lol)

I didn't have to tell my mum, she just sat me down one day and said 'You know, if you're gay, it's fine...and if -insert ex gf's name here- is more than just you're friend that's fine too'

As for my friends, well I just waited for them to ask and said yes XD I have to say though that I've outed myself a couple of times by being slightly aggressive towards people who make sly homophobic comments ¬.¬

All in all, I'm pretty laid back about it. Because I don't go out of my way to tell people I think it makes it less of a big deal. And if people don't like it, that's fine *shrugs* I've had this happen and I just get on with life lol

Of course I wasn't always like this, when I first realised that I was gay I denied it to myself for the longest time, and denied it to everyone else for even longer lol

Having at least one person who knows and is supportive will make your life SO much easier. I'm out to all of my friends, and I can't say that I care enough to be bothered who in my family knows (some of them are very homophobic, but I don't talk to them anyway Razz

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Wow...long post 0_0

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by **ATHENAx514** Thu Mar 22, 2012 4:00 pm

my support group is semi big but i also have those ppl who say their ok with it but still make comments about me marrying a man. Its absurd, to be perfectly honest I dont plan on getting married even if its legal I dont like the idea of marriage, I dont have a problem with people who get married though, I just think you shouldnt have to make something so official like that love is love and needs no paperwork or name changing to still be love :)

the only marriage i do is facebook marriage and Im currently married to...MYSELF xD

by **IlliterateKoi** Thu Mar 22, 2012 4:13 pm

ATHENAx514 wrote:my support group is semi big but i also have those ppl who say their ok with it but still make comments about me marrying a man. Its absurd, to be perfectly honest I dont plan on getting married even if its legal I dont like the idea of marriage, I dont have a problem with people who get married though, I just think you shouldnt have to make something so official like that love is love and needs no paperwork or name changing to still be love :)

the only marriage i do is facebook marriage and Im currently married to...MYSELF xD

My thoughts on marriage exactly. It's just a bit of paper at the end of the day. Though for some reason I do like the idea of being able to say that I have a 'wife'...probably because I'm weird and would just like to see the look on people’s faces when I say it XD

by **ATHENAx514** Thu Mar 22, 2012 4:59 pm

well in my state its like 7 years of living together is considered a common law marriage and thats how my parents were which could explain why i could care less about marriage. when my parents split it was still a big deal just like a divorce but less paper work which made things go more smoothly for them. I do agree saying you have a wife is awesome people are so dumbfounded. the only pros of marriage is the sexy ring the sexy honeymoon and the sexy house .

by **IlliterateKoi** Thu Mar 22, 2012 5:09 pm

ATHENAx514 wrote:well in my state its like 7 years of living together is considered a common law marriage and thats how my parents were which could explain why i could care less about marriage. when my parents split it was still a big deal just like a divorce but less paper work which made things go more smoothly for them. I do agree saying you have a wife is awesome people are so dumbfounded. the only pros of marriage is the sexy ring the sexy honeymoon and the sexy house .

And the sexy wife of course Wink

by **ATHENAx514** Thu Mar 22, 2012 8:41 pm

oh yeah i forgot bout the wife xD. and as always with marriage the kids subject will come up....too crazy for me lol

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Thu Mar 29, 2012 7:30 pm

The Real L Word: Common Misconceptions

^ I posted that on Facebook and I wonder if anyone else could add any other misconceptions about lesbians that the TRLW girls left out? I'm sure there's a lot in this very stupid world. Arika Yumemiya

by **Chaglette** Fri Mar 30, 2012 6:11 am

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:The Real L Word: Common Misconceptions

^ I posted that on Facebook and I wonder if anyone else could add any other misconceptions about lesbians that the TRLW girls left out? I'm sure there's a lot in this very stupid world.

'I like guys. I just don't want them in my bed.' LOL.

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Fri Mar 30, 2012 6:57 pm

Nagi wrote:'I like guys. I just don't want them in my bed.' LOL.

This could of easily come out of your mouth, Nagi. ;p Just admit it already.

by **Chaglette** Sat Mar 31, 2012 9:31 am

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:
Nagi wrote:'I like guys. I just don't want them in my bed.' LOL.

This could of easily come out of your mouth, Nagi. ;p Just admit it already.

Nao nao, Luu >:3 Let's not corner the little Nagi into the corner shall we?

Though, I have to admit that I agree with you *facepalms*

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Sun Apr 01, 2012 12:59 am

Nagi wrote:Though, I have to admit that I agree with you *facepalms*

Thatta girl. ;p Now you're learning.

by **Chaglette** Sun Apr 01, 2012 2:24 am

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:Thatta girl. ;p Now you're learning.

I have one of the ultimate yuri mistresses as a mentor, how can I not? Mikoto Minagi

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Sun Apr 01, 2012 12:28 pm

Nagi wrote:I have one of the ultimate yuri mistresses as a mentor, how can I not?

: She's easily referring to me. *dramatic angst mode*

>_< NO, SHIZUMA! NOT ANOTHER ONE OF YOUR ANGST SCENES, PLEASE! KAORI IS DEAD! ACCEPT IT!!!!!

by **Chaglette** Mon Apr 02, 2012 6:33 am

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote: : She's easily referring to me. *dramatic angst mode*

>_< NO, SHIZUMA! NOT ANOTHER ONE OF YOUR ANGST SCENES, PLEASE! KAORI IS DEAD! ACCEPT IT!!!!!

: Oh Shizuma-sama... you still have me. <3 *gives a squeeze*

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Mon Apr 02, 2012 6:23 pm

Nagi wrote: : Oh Shizuma-sama... you still have me. <3 *gives a squeeze*

: Oh yeah, almost forgot about you...~~

>_> Where's Tamao when you need her?

by **Chaglette** Tue Apr 03, 2012 4:26 am

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote: : Oh yeah, almost forgot about you...~~

>_> Where's Tamao when you need her?

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: *pops out Nagisa's skirt* Did someone mention my name?

Nagisa

: T-Tamao-chan!

by **SpiralDasher** Wed Apr 04, 2012 9:03 am

"I'm Christian, Unless You're Gay"
http://www.danoah.com/2011/11/im-christian-unless-youre-gay.html

This whole article. No, not just that: all of the posts he shows of all the life stories people have told him, how people have changed. All the comments in all of his posts about this topic, people sharing their own life experiences. It shows that we're not alone. Others are like us.
I'm beyond lucky, a miracle has been bestowed upon me that both my parents are accepting of me. I know it's not the most comfortable topic for them, so I spare them having to think about it by not bringing it up, but I still have a roof over my head and loving, accepting parents, which so much more than so many of the stories I've heard about other homosexual children that have come out to their parents. I'm so fortunate, and it hurts when I read others aren't; so, when I read about the change this man's article has made, I can't help but feel overwhelmed and think that people are starting to change in the world, starting to look past hate and "sin" and just love /people/.

Follow-up posts concerning real-life stories about how this article changed their lives: http://www.danoah.com/category/im-christian-unless-youre-gay/

This article and the follow-up posts moved me to the point of tears, each new message bringing up a new flow. I'm honestly scared to post this, but if I can help spread the word, have others click the link, read the article, and /truly/ understand what it's like for us and others in similar situations, then I feel like I'm making a difference and not hiding any more. If this article has moved you too, please spread the word.

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I've never been an active person to spread words of being accepting of homosexuals, because I've always been afraid of backlash. Like I said above, I am a slightly-outed lesbian, but I keep mostly to myself if the topic should arise. This is the first time I've done anything active. It feels good. It feels right. I'm so happy right now that nothing could bring me down, I haven't been this happy in a long time and all of this only for standing up for myself and others like me.

I say it again: If this article has moved you too, please spread the word. ^^

by **Luu Sky Sapphire** Thu Apr 05, 2012 1:19 am

Thanks for sharing this, Dash. I had a chance to read the article and comments earlier today. More acceptance in an unaccepting world makes life suck less.

^^; Honestly, I can spread the word a tad differently. Check our announcements section in the near future, hopefully you'll be interesting in taking part.

by **SpiralDasher** Thu Apr 05, 2012 2:03 am

Luu Sky Sapphire wrote:Thanks for sharing this, Dash. I had a chance to read the article and comments earlier today. More acceptance in an unaccepting world makes life suck less.

^^; Honestly, I can spread the word a tad differently. Check our announcements section in the near future, hopefully you'll be interesting in taking part.

Thanks, Luu. I know it's not much to be thanked just for reading something, but really, thank you. =) I posted this a couple other places and no one, not even anyone on facebook, responded to my post. I feel like they were avoiding it and that truly made me sad; are they trying to avoid the fact that I'm a lesbian? Can they not be bothered to take the time to read one powerful message?
I know I'm just speculating, but it means a lot to me that you took that time to read. Grazie. X3

I look forward to seeing what it is. ^^

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